Two Becoming One by Deborah Horack

 The minute 2 people marry, they are legally joined together. Experientially, though, they do not immediately "become one" when they say "I do", they simply begin the process of becoming one (see Genesis 2:24). As the process works itself out, each partner should hold marriage in honor & esteem the relationship as worthy and precious. They should treat each other as being very valuable. Note in Genesis a three-step progression that demonstrates how to become one. (1) Leave. Sometimes a wife clings excessively to her mother and her mother's opinions about what she ought to do, or a husband runs to his father for advice, when the couple should be trusting & leaning on each other. If two people are married but have not left home (both physically & mentally), they need to do so. (2) Cleave. In practical terms, the word cleave means to stick to each other like glue. (3) Become one. Becoming one means the complete union of body, soul, spirit, and again,

This takes time. If both people in a marriage relationship are born again, then the spiritual union is in place. The most difficult part of the "becoming one" process is usually the uniting of 2 souls-the joining of 2 minds, wills, and sets of emotions. Most marital problems in the arena of the soul result from strife over lack of communication, sexual misunderstanding, money, goals, and the disciplining of children. All of these things need to be worked out in the soul’s realm of the marriage union, and in order to become one in that area, a husband & a wife need to give their issues to God and say "Father, change my mind or my will if I am wrong". God is the one who will bring them into agreement with the other, they no longer try to force each other to be someone they are not, but realize they need each other to be exactly who God created them to be. They no longer pick on each other's weaknesses.

Instead, they partake of their strengths, they enjoy one another, and they enjoy the process of becoming one.

   I hope you enjoyed this explanation of becoming one from "Joyce Meyer's" point of view. Joyce brings to the attention to couples how to become one together with God. I pray for all married couples that with God's wisdom & grace they will conquer any troubles that are now in their marriage. May God unite them together as they become one with Him. Amen!
Thank you and have a wonderful month and until next time. God bless you all.     
    Love Debi
Commentary taken from "JOYCE MEYERS THE EVERYDAY LIFE BIBLE",  NOTES AND COMMENTARY BY JOYCE MEYER